Marriages are sassy, divorces are messy.
They are best avoided, especially if you have kids. However, if there is absolutely no chance of saving your marriage and you have to go through with a divorce, then here are a few tips that can help you out:
Divorce Advice For Men
9 tips every men must know about divorce.
1. Lawyers are in the game to make money
They'd like a divorce case to drag on to kingdom come, and if you hire such a lawyer then you're in for a long haul. So choose your lawyer carefully ask your friends who have gone through a divorce for a recommendation. If you are unable to find a lawyer this way, then you have no other go but to interview a few lawyers and choose the one you consider the best.
2. Get a New Mail Box
If you are expecting to receive private mail, hire a new post box. Get a new storage place for your financial records.
3. Speak to your bank and close all joint accounts.
Cancel all joint credit cards and if possible ask your credit card company to issue you with new cards if they are in your own name. Your wife may have a note of the numbers.
4. Keep a line of communication open with your wife.
If you stop communicating a minor issue can turn into major crisis. There is always the chance that your wife may want to resolve the divorce quickly. If she can't contact you then she can't ask you.
5. Your Kids will be Hardest Hit.
If you have kids this can be the hardest part of any divorce. Keep in contact with them and make sure that they know they are not to blame. Let them know that you are always there for them.
6. The easiest thing to do is to get angry and destroy correspondence from wife. STOP! This can be your greatest ally in a court of law. Keep all correspondence no matter how trivial it may seem.
7. Dont Make Negative Comments About Your Wife.
This one is a tough one! Don't make negative comments about your wife to anyone. You never know who will tell a friend , who tells someone else and soon you get a lawyers letter telling you that you've been spreading rumors, and that my friend will cost you!.
8. Chill!
Don't let your wife provoke you into being aggressive. If you're seen to be aggressive you will lose your divorce. If your wife is aggressive towards you just stay calm.
9. Create a Support System
Do you have a support system in your relations and friends? If yes, lean on them for emotional support.
Divorce Advice For Men
The reality about divorce is, it is not nice and they can get very nasty. Your wife will unfortunately be in the driving seat when it comes to a settlement. But with the right help and advice you can get what you want from the divorce not what she wants you to have. Follow the 9 steps above.
