OK – that’s it! Blow the danged whistle! We need a Time Out!
Holy Smokes, Folks! We’re going outta control. No, not all of us of course. But there are enough of us pushing our physical, mental and emotional limits that it’s worthwhile talking about it. Let me ask you this. When was the last time you just kicked back and looked at the clouds to see what cartoonish kinds of figures or shapes you could see in them? Or the last time you touched a plant leaf and really thought about how it felt and how amazing it was that it was an actual living thing? Or the last time you strolled leisurely down the road or path and thought about nothing in particular? Or the last time you watched a baby sleep and enjoyed the feeling of being a part of a great creation? Or the last time you leaned back in an easy chair and snoozed – not because you were completely worn out, but just because it seemed like a neat thing to do?
How long has it been? An extremely long time? Never? Hmmm…
Many of us unfortunately, are the proud owners of the skewed assumption that we must always be doing something. OK, for those of you who have a tendency to get overly technical, we are always doing something – even when we’re doing “nothing". You know what I mean. I’m referring to our obsession with physical and mental (and sometimes emotional) activity. We go to work, do stuff, talk with folks, go home, go to the store, go out to an activity, run errands, pay bills, haul the kids around, fix meals, do yard work, do house work, fix stuff, paint stuff, reorganize stuff, buy more stuff, watch TV, surf the web, and on and on. Even our vacations are so crammed with “doing" that we’re pooped puppies by the time we get back home.
Yeah, I know. I have heard time and time again, “But I just have sooo much to do that I can’t get it all done in a day!" Hmmm (again…). And I think to myself that there are several possible reasons for this comment. This person may be in a survival mode of operation and his/her day is filled to overflowing with more than one job, caring for loved ones and trying to meet the demands of everyday living. This can be tough, but we do what we gotta do. Or this individual may just be a bit disorganized and have a difficult time establishing logical priorities. Or, maybe he/she isn’t really all that busy but for some inner reason would like others to think he/she is. Or maybe this person has a difficult time saying “no" for a variety of reasons. Or perhaps this individual has become so accustomed to being busy or having some type of auditory input or stimulus that to do otherwise is uncomfortable – again, for a variety of possible reasons.
We all have our individual, special reasons for being busy and admittedly, many of the reasons are completely valid. I’m suggesting however, that none of the reasons are valid enough. Every single one of us needs time to kick back for at least a few minutes each day to recharge our physical, mental and emotional batteries. And the busier we get, the more critical this re-charge becomes.
Most of us know, or have known, people who have succumbed to the Go-Go-Go Syndrome. We have seen everything from burn-outs to complete physical, mental or emotional collapse. Suddenly, the go-go-go has turned into a stop-stop-stop. Everything that seemed to be such a high priority dropped dramatically in its ranking – probably closer to the level it should have been at in the first place.
I think it would be very beneficial if we all made the small effort that it takes to reserve at least fifteen minutes a day just for us. Fifteen minutes for a time out to relax, meditate or just let the old brain cells cool down. Fifteen minutes to regroup and recharge our batteries. Just fifteen minutes. About one percent of our day. OK, considering all the other possible options, it might not be the absolute best fifteen minutes you’ve ever enjoyed in life but it’s still worth doing. Give it a try. You’ll like it…
Scarry Busy Busy World
As a single mom and full time student myself, I find this to be the busiest time of the year for me. Add onto this the fact that I homeschool my daughter and you'll find that I, like the majority of others that I know, am having a difficult time balancing my family's varying schedules. I would even dare say that 24 hours just doesn't seem to be enough time in a day for me. That is why I'm finding myself having to look at time management. I am trying to shift from complaining about the time that I don't have to being grateful for the time that I do have. Spending quality family time together is one of my highest priorities but when running around from activity to activity, it is hard to find. Here are some strategies that I choose to employ in order to gain control of my time:
(1.) I objectively determine the initial priorities for my family. These are based upon last year's schedule, my daughter and my personalities, finances, current commitments and the comfort level of my family. I find that I want to focus on academics, balance my time, make sure that we're both enjoying ourselves, and that there is time for friends, family, quiet time, reading, and playing.
(2.) I have a notebook in which I keep our calendar for each week. These are based on the decisions that were reached in #1. Some things that are included are school hours and activities, work schedules, activity schedules, religious events, family time, meal time, homework time, sleep time and most importantly NON-scheduled time. Of course, I have to also take into account travel time, preparation/clean up time, waiting time, etc. and how we can make the best use of these times as well (ie carpooling, walking to activities, bringing work along for waiting time). I have also removed a variety of things as my daughter and I definitely thrive upon a more relaxed schedule.
I also find that it is important to establish a routine. This makes life run much smoother. Some areas where routines are a must are school, chores and meals.
I am always working on eliminating clutter in my household, not only because I'm a frugalist but also because I find that there's a lot of needless time being wasted looking for things. I have set places in my home for keys, school items, library books, bags, purses, lunch kits, etc.
I immediately deal with paper. For instance, I know that I must keep a portfolio for both Ashley and my education. As such I take time to update them weekly. I also read and recycle mail right at the mailbox, write all pertinent information off school papers, newsletters, mail, flyers, etc in my family notebook and recycle them as well.
As hard as it is for me... I do my best to avoid perfectionism, aiming for completion and excellence instead.
I try to limit details. There are so many choices available to us in life but when limiting them you're actually saving yourself time.
I am big on limiting time wasters such as watching TV, playing video games, surfing the Internet, or talking on the phone
I would have to say that it's really all about making a shift in perspective. The school year naturally keeps us busy but we must make the choice to keep busy with important things instead of being overwhelmed by disarray. I hope that this will help you all gain better control of your time!
Reverend Brenda Hoffman, is ordained by the Unitarian Life Church, and has been delivering holistic health and wellness advice for over 7 years since receiving a BA in psychology. As a home-based professional and mother of 1, she operates a holistic wellness network. She invites you over to http://www.yourhealthyfamilyhome.com/ to learn how to improve you and your family's health.
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