Dating is in the numbers

By: Jim Mackey
So you say that you’ve tried it all from blind dates to online datingand still nothing has worked? I say that’s rubbish! The first rule ofthumb is that dating is a numbers game. The Rule of Averages can beapplied to dating in that the more people you contact the better thechances of finding a mate. So if you contact 100 people you are morelikely to find someone to date versus just contacting 10 people. SpeedDating is the perfect place to meet many people in a short period oftime.

Speed Dating is actually a relatively new concept. The practicewas actually first introduced as a way for Jewish individuals to meetone another in 1998. The first Speed Dateevent was hosted by Rabbi Yaacov Deyo of Aish HaTorah at Pete’s Café inBeverley Hills. The concept became widely known on an episode of Sexand the City in 2000. Today speed dating is practiced all over theworld and is responsible for many successful marriages.

The concept of speed dating is simple. An organization hosts anevent for 50-100 people at restaurant or place with largeaccommodations. Registered daters fill out a biography and what theyare looking for prior to the event. At the event daters have between3-8 minutes to go on a mini date. After the time has expired the datersswitch spots and move on to the next date. After the event is over(usually multiple hours) daters fill out ratings cards and rate each oftheir dates. If both daters feel there is a match then contactinformation is released to both parties.

A scientific study on speed dating concluded that firstimpressions were made within 3 seconds of meeting someone. So making anexcellent first impression is crucial to success. The chances of beingselected on average were 34% for men and 49% for women. Those numbersare pretty good considering in one evening you might meet 50 differentpeople. In one night, guys will get 17 phone numbers and gals will get24.5 phone numbers. Not bad for a few hours of your time.

Tips for a successful Speed Date

1. Dress Nice- Show up looking classy. Not like a bum for theguys and not like a sorority girl for the women. Hold off on strongcologne or perfume as well.

2. Have Something to Talk About- It’s pretty much true that weare all very boring. On a date faking it priority number one. Beforethe date prepare some topics of conversation in your head. Travel,Goals, MusicFree Articles, Movies are all good topics. The best thing to do is ask alot of questions and follow up questions. People generally love to talkabout themselves.

3. Be Playful- Flirting usually requires a good deal of teasing.For some reason the old playground rules of youth still apply. Chasinggirls is good just make sure you don’t push it too far.

4. Remember It’s a Numbers Game- You will bomb on some dates. It’s okay because there are plenty of daters out there.

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