The Problem Of Infidelity

By: Alexarcher
The effects of infidelity on marriages can be devastating and if not addressed, everlasting. If you've been a victim of your spouse 's infidelity, you will have a lot of thoughts going through your mind and will have some difficult decisions to make.

Some people have no tolerance for infidelity and decide on a divorce. Others want to work it out. Either way, the healing after an affair is a slow process that shouldn't be rushed. As a matter of fact, you may want to seek counseling whether you decide to work things out with your spouse or not. If you decide to leave the relationship, you will need counseling for yourself.

Few if any marriages are perfect, but often the problems mount and become cause for concern. Marriage counseling, in the context of infidelity, can help the partners work though the problems which may have led to the infidelity in the first place. Marriage counseling can also help each partner understand the effects their infidelity might have.

Bringing up suspicions of infidelity should not be done hastily, as your spouse may be very sensitive about it. False accusations of infidelity can be damaging to the trust in your relationship. There are, however, signs which may help you decide if you should be suspicious.

One sign is an increase in the time spent away from home, or engaged in activities in which you don't participate. While it is natural for your spouse to develop some of his or her own interests, sudden changes particularly when you are explicitly excluded, might be seen with some suspicion. Another, more direct sign of possible infidelity, is a decrease in intimacy. When taken together, these can point toward problems in your relationship.

If your spouse is hanging out with a new group of people and you've been excluded from this group, it could possibly be a sign. One of the biggest signs of infidelity is if a person from the opposite sex is constantly calling your spouse or if you are receiving a lot of hang up calls at home.

The other side of infidelity is if you are considering being unfaithful yourself. Interest in romantic or sexual relationships outside of your marriage might be cause to evaluate problems which may have arisen in your marriage. Communication, perhaps facilitated by a marriage counselor, is a good way to head off these problems before they progress further. Infidelity is, in many cases, a point of no return in that it permanently damages or destroys the relationship.

The best thing to do in a situation of infidelity in a marriage is to carefully consider all of your options before making any decisions. If you are the betrayed spouse, you will most likely be very angry and will definitely be very hurt. Make sure that your actions are taken with thought and not based solely on your initial emotions.
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