Russian Women to Avoid

By: Annas Agency?

Russian Women to Avoid

Foreign men willing to marry a Russian woman often have a reasonable fear to make a mistake in their choice. If you are one of them, here are the most dangerous category of women to avoid

  • The Gold Digger
    a foreign marriage is only a means of improving their welfare. If a woman keeps actively questioning you about your financial situation, asks what you can provide her with and doesn't show any interest in you personally, you have to be careful; most possibly she tries to marry your wallet, but not you.
  • The very selfish ones.
    There are women who are really searching for a man to marry with, and still, living with them may seem an endless nightmare to you. Who are they? If a woman is concentrated on herself, she will be hardly ever able to find any time for you and your children. You will be lucky enough, if she confines to admiring herself, but if she demands the same from you, I need to assure you, your life will become terrible.
  • The true bitches.
    Every man has some experience of dealing with them, and also some idea of them. For one of my male acquaintances, for example, a bitch is a selfish, rude, falsely compliant, double-faced woman, for whom a man is nothing but a means of attaining her goal. 'She is twice as selfish,' as he often remarks. Only one thing is clear here: you should run as fast and as far as possible from her.
  • The Fools.
    A silly person is not a pleasant thing, so to say. But a silly woman is a real natural disaster. She doesn't only say stupidities, she acts stupidly. A too clever woman is not, certainly, a dream, of a man; as a famous Russian satirist A.Raikin said once: 'What do you need a wise wife for? You will always feel an idiot by her side.' That is why you should seek for a woman, who could be smart enough as not to show that she is cleverer than you; but beware of fools.
  • Beware of heavenly beautiful women.
    It is well-known that the Lord equally grants all of us, and people who are good-looking, smart, easy to deal with and compliant at the same time are rather rare. While looking at a pretty lady, think and see if her good looks is not the only thing she is endowed with.

While communicating with a woman you should pay your attention at several points:

  • the way she behaves, whether her behavior isn't too familiar and vulgar;
  • the drinks she prefers, if she doesn't abuse alcohol;
  • the way she treats others (in public transport, in the restaurant, in the hotel, in the street). Beware of rude and scandalous women;
  • how she spends money. It is not characteristic of a virtuous Russian woman to throw the money, even if she were rich;
  • how she behaves with you. If she offers herself right after the first minutes, she is not the woman you need;
  • the topics she is ready to discuss, and the manner she does it. If she is concentrated on her own problems and ignores the things you tell her, she is not the one you are looking for;
  • how she treats the children, yours and her own ones. A true Russian woman is easy to discover by her tender attitude to children;
  • the people she deals with. The folk wisdom says: 'Tell me who you friend is, and I'll tell you who you are.' Even if a woman is a good actress and manages to create a favorable image of hers, her personal contacts will tell you much more about her and, what is more important, in a more honest way.

Men from abroad are often afraid of getting married a prostitute. I will give some recommendations, how to reveal such a woman:

  • She doesn't want to speak about her job.
  • She says that she is a secretary, an accountant, a waitress, and it doesn't correspond with her high level of living. She might as well have prosperous parents or a former husband to provide her; try to find it out. Don't forget that high salaries are commonly paid in the sphere of finance; and women working in other spheres aren't usually well-paid.
  • She doesn't want you to meet her family: her way of life might be the reason of her family relations break up.

In spite of it all, do not be too suspicious. The point is much easier: you should better not look for your future wife in bars, restaurants, hotels and on the streets at night. I wish you good luck. May you be happy!

Russian Women and Domestic Problems
Let us see what typical family problems a woman has to deal with in modern Russia.

There is a strong opinion in Russia, that it is not the adulterer to blame for his doings, but the one who stimulates him. According to the centuries-old tradition, people usually accuse the woman. The husband is unfaithful, but the woman is guilty; she is taken as bad hostess, wife and mother. If she herself is unfaithful, then she is twice as guilty! What will be the reaction of a modern Russian woman in case she gets to know about her husband? There is an incredible number of possible patterns of behavior.

Sometimes adultery leads to divorce. But in many cases women forgive their husbands for being unfaithful. There are several reasons why the Russian woman forgives:

  • firstly, feeling pity towards her husband, when she is sure that 'he will die without me';
  • secondly, the desire to save the family by all means: legally and for the social status;
  • thirdly, the fear of staying alone;
  • fourthly, being financially dependent upon the husband (usually in rich families).

It often happens in modern Russia, when a tyrant husband totally suppresses his wife; finally, the moment comes when she tries to set herself free through the act of adultery. Sometimes it may be also a way for a Russian woman to get her husband's love back. A wife can easily see, that if she seems rather attractive to men around, her husband becomes more attentive to her. It occasionally happens when, tired after being endlessly reproached and after her husband being constantly jealous, the woman finds a way to be unfaithful. She thinks that it is much easier to stand his jealousy by horning him.

There are cases when a Russian woman becomes unfaithful for her career, and even for the career of her husband. This situation is described in one of the films by a well-known Russian director Pyotr Todorovski: the wife of a captain becomes a lover of commander of the regiment to promote her husband. Lately, the wives of the so-called 'new Russians' (people who have become rich in a short period of time), being excluded from the social life, find lovers (often young hustlers) to overcome their depression.

The cases described above are by no means a national trouble of Russians. I daresay that, following the Christian and social morals, most Russian women are truly faithful to their husbands. Being faithful is the most important quality of the Russian woman in the relationship to her husband.

Adultery gives rise to another family problem, jealousy. No doubt, that is a notion peculiar of the people all over the world. It appears in a great number of cases: when the one who is in love becomes unsure that he or she is equally loved in return; when a person in love takes the other one as his property; or when he himself is far too innocent. A Russian woman may borrow this sense of jealous from her parents' family. Suppose, she frequently used to see her father being unfaithful; that may give her reason to believe that all men are born traitors, and from the first days of her marriage she suspects her husband, unable to trust him.

Love is often accompanied by jealousy. The aggressive behavior of a husband is justified by many Russian women by the proverb 'If he is jealous, he is in love.' But it must be taken into account, that jealousy deeply offends the Russian woman, whether it might be light or, even worse, strong. She feels humiliated and insulted. It is worth only surprising at the Russian woman's capability to forgive her jealous and unfaithful men. But don't try to abuse a woman's patience and to 'awake a beast' in her. According to the statistics, the husband's jealousy and adultery are the chief reasons of divorces in Russia.

As the Russian proverb goes, 'Smart people stay together, but fools divorce.' It is quite common for people in Russia to stay enemies after the divorce. Relatives, children, friends, and even colleagues, are involved into the long-term antagonism of the former spouses. And what are the reasons of the divorces in Russian families? Let us enumerate some of them:

  • being greatly dependent on the parents who don't like their sons- or daughters-in-law and interfere into the life of their grown-up children;
  • inability to solve regular family problems and hopes for a next happier marriage in future;
  • long family crisis;
  • suppression of one of the spouses' personality;
  • physical violence (mostly from men);
  • adultery;
  • one of the spouses' alcoholism or drug-addiction;
  • one of the spouses inability to have children;
  • financial difficulties;
  • the peculiarities of the profession.

According to the statistics, every third married couple is divorced in Russia nowadays. But as psychologists say, 50 per cent of the divorced regret their separation later on. Some of them go on living together being officially divorced. It is worth mentioning that in spite of all the troubles, the Russian woman tries to save her family by all means, and divorces only when her marriage becomes really unbearable.

The Russian woman is able to solve any family problems. The main reason of this is her burning desire to save the family, especially if there are common children in it.

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