In many of the articles that I've been writing for you, I've talked about the importance of having time for yourself. If you are currently going through a divorce or have recently divorced, you will discover that you'll need to rely on friends and family more than you ever have before. During the early days of your divorce, having time for yourself can be pretty tricky, especially if you have kids. In this article, I've given you some practical pointers on simple ways to accomplish this very needed relaxation.
ONE: Lean on your parents. I know it's a bit embarasing burdening them with what you see as 'only your' problems, because you might have had some words with them because of the divorce. Whatever the case may be, they remain your parents just the same, and beneath words you might have experienced with them, they love you still. That will never change. They should be helping you through this tough time in your life. It isn't that much to ask to have them baby sit for you a couple times a month so that you can catch a breather. I suspect if you discussed this with them, they'd agree with me.
TWO: Lean on your ex in-laws. Yep, you heard me right. Your children will always be the grandchildren they adore even if they are unhappy with your for divorcing your ex. I have a friend who's ex mother-in-law told her "You can divorce him, but you can't divorce me. I want to experience my grandkids." My advice is to use their help when you need to do every day tasks that would be just be easier and get done faster minus your kids, like grocery shopping or talking with your attorney. Just be straight and to the point. Tell them you could use their help.
THREE: Lean on a good friend: Everyone has at least one, special someone that they can confide in. Who is that person that always has your best interest at heart? Who do you know that really cares for both you and your kids? Talk to them. They know your ex isn't helping you, so you can ask them for some much-needed help. Most people love to help out and I'm sure they'd be flattered by your request if you don't abuse the privilege.
And finally, just take some time to put a plan in action. We all feel better when we have something to look forward to. If you can sit down with some of these important people and make up some sort of schedule, you and your kids will benefit greatly! As a result, you will have removed some of the painful pressure of being divorced, and you will have been instrumental in providing alone time for YOU.
