Do you know how to properly approach beautiful women? It seems that things have changed so much. How do you begin anew?
In my line of work, I get all sorts of clients and inevitably some of the men are divorced guys looking to work the single scenes, except they have no idea where to begin. It's been a quite a while since they hit the bar scene with the fellas and approached girls and now, what perhaps used to be second nature, feels a bit foreign.
It seems as if the times have changed so much. Some guys feel like they got lucky to meet the girl they married the first time as they were never very good at attracting women to begin with. Oh, what will they do now??
I am going to be very frank with you. I have never been divorced. Then again, that may be because I have never been married either. My job is to help guys from all walks of life meet women, build attraction, and have a successful dating life. My job is to help men attract women. Whether you plan to get married again or not is none of my business.
If you have been out of the scene for a while, you need to become acclimated into the single scene once again.
Now, I am going to lay out a specific 10 Step program to enable you to effectively join the single scene again and start attracting more women.
***STEP 1- Attitude readjustment***
It all starts with your ATTITUDE. This is the first step!
You have to make a decision. I can give you all sorts of dating advice but it won't do you any good until you decide that you want to get this part of your life handled.
So you have a choice: You have a choice. You can stand around, snivel, gripe and complain about how times have changed, about how different things are now, OR you can decide NOW to start attracting a wonderful (women) into your life. If you are reading through this article, perhaps you have already made this decision!
This is a time to celebrate your freedom! Chances are if you were married for 15 or 20 years, you were institutionalized, sort of like the character of "Brooks" from the classic movie "The Shawshank Redemption." If you've seen the movie, you know exactly what I am talking about. The "Brooks" character would have chosen to stay in that prison under inhumane conditions rather than celebrate his freedom with uncertainty.
When you were married, things made sense even if the circumstances were atrocious. Now, things suddenly do not make sense and this is a scary feeling.
This is a temporary state! You must realize that this shall pass. You're not the first man to become divorced, nor are you the last.
In fact 60% of marriages end up in a divorce in some parts of the country so you're in pretty good company.
Adjust your attitude. Start to realize that you have just opened the door to a world of new possibilities. Celebrate your new found freedom and the door that has just been opened to new possibilities.
***STEP 2- Burn your old clothes. Time for a makeover***
Look, I know it's possible that you were already a sharp dresser. Anything is possible!! We live in a country that lets Geraldo on TV! In my experience, however, most men have no clue how to dress properly and when it comes to married men, forget about it.
In my experience, most married men I meet, have settled into a comfort zone where the sweatshirt over plain pants look has become their calling card. If you are back on the single scene, it'd help if you started to once again take care of your appearance. It's time to a grab a few new outfits, a pair of new shoes, and do some grooming.
I understand how basic this sounds but you may be astounded as to how many guys I come across who fail their basic grooming. Just make sure your hair (don't care if it's completely shaved or in a pompadour,) your beard/goatee, looks like it's been cared for.
Good Breath is on top of this list. The problem is most people including many of your buddies won't tell you that you have bad breath. They'll just run away. Our first step is to make certain that we are taking care of the basics.
Change the way you dress, start grooming, and look presentable. Look like you're in demand and that you know it!
***STEP 3- Start Approaching***
Make an effort to approach more women and grow your social circle. You have to start socializing more with women as well as more men. Most married couples hang out with other married couples, talk about babies, fight over bills, and watch reruns of Law & Order.
It's needless to say that regardless of the conversational topics, this particular social circle isn't going to introduce you to as many single women as you'd like to meet. Thus, you have to start creating various social circles that are comprised of single people or people in relationships who still rub elbows with those in the single world.
You also have to start making an effort to approach more women everywhere. Most people immediately think of going to bars and clubs. Depending on your age, taste, likes and dislikes, you may not be a bar/club guy. That's certainly understandable.
You can still make an effort to approach women during your daily activities which could range from supermarket and coffee-shops to various classes, clubs, and the gym.
You also may want to give online personals a try. I'd only advise you to utilize the personals as a supplemental means to meet women, not as your only means to meet new women.
***STEP 4- Start exercising again***
I am being a bit presumptuous here. Maybe you already do, and that's great. Most married guys start growing horizontally. Exercise will make you FEEL better physically, emotionally, and mentally. It will also boost your self-confidence which is of the utmost importance! Plus if you join a gym, you will meet new people, females as well as males. (Not to mention that it will improve your physical appearance.)
This is not a ploy to pick up women. It's going to make you feel better about you!
***STEP 5- Establishing New networks***
Look to create a network of single friends who really enjoy going out and meeting women. Nothing would probably encourage you more to actually enjoy going out and meeting women more than surrounding yourself with a few guys who like to have a good time and socialize.
Hanging with introverts who want to sit home and maybe play a card game or two is not going to help you meet more women. If you are going to hang with guys like that, then make sure you balance it with hanging with a few animals who want to hit the outdoor life.
OK, we are half way there. Please go on to part 2 to read the next 5 steps that will help you attract the women of your choice.
Wishing you the best,
Cameron Teone
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10 Important Events In History
Opinions about websites are many; however, a few things are just overwhelmingly important if you intend to produce income through your website. If you don't incorporate the following top ten factors into the development of your website, it is likely to become just another pretty face on the web, instead of an income generating tool…
Factor #1 – Attracting qualified traffic
Qualified traffic consists of visitors from your target market interested in your products or services. There are many internet marketing tactics to attract such traffic, but search engine optimization is the cheapest, most effective way to market your website. Keywords and keyword phrases your target market uses when searching for information, products or services need to be identified and professionally incorporated into your website during the design and development process. Additionally, each webpage has to be submitted to the top search engines following the search engine guidelines. A search engine listing, which is adequately prepared for your target market, is the best way to get qualified traffic to your website.
Factor #2 – Dependability
Most people give little thought to selecting a web host. They usually choose the cheapest or even a free hosting package. Bad decision! Dependability is critical when it comes to an income generating website. Every second your website is offline, you could be losing money. Also, a slow loading or user-unfriendly website is sure to lose customers. Choosing a cheap or free web hosting package may be your worst nightmare, because usually they aren't very dependable. You may experience downtime, slow loading or poor navigation. Even worse, your website may be lost when the servers go down if your web host doesn't maintain backups. It's also good to have total control of your website through a control panel in order to make changes yourself and manage your content. A reliable web host and a sufficient hosting package with control features are essential.
Factor #3 – Functionality
The functionality of your website can make or break you. Your website should load fast, be user-friendly, easy to navigate and above all, it shouldn't have broken links. If it doesn't meet those standards, you are likely wasting your advertising dollars and losing leads from your target market. There is nothing more annoying to website visitors than a website that doesn't work. If they run into glitches, they are likely to leave your site and go straight to your competition.
Factor #4 – Lead generation
If you get someone to your website, they should be considered valid leads and your website should attempt to collect their contact information for follow-up (at least a name and email address). This is usually done through a squeeze page which is designed to collect email addresses for an opt-in email list by offering to send visitors more information. A well-designed squeeze page will leave readers with a sense of urgency and a desire for more information about the topic. When a visitor first visits your website, they may not buy anything. They may just be researching at the time. By getting them to sign up for opt-in email list, you will be building leads for future contacts – lead generation at its finest!
Factor #5 – Following leads while they are hot
If someone signs up for your opt-in list, they have already expressed their interest. It's very important to follow-up right away with desired information. You can subtly market to them later. Autoresponders are the best way to take care of the follow-up and ongoing communications. You just setup the timing and the messages once and the messages will be delivered automatically. Autoresponders can even be personalized with the name of the recipient. It sure beats chasing leads and following up on them individually.
Factor #6 – Establishing credibility
Establishing credibility is fundamental in any business, but in an online business it is much more difficult. Your website has to take on the many roles of representing your business. It has to show your expertise, gain the readers' confidence, overcome any obstacles, and offer customer service, as well as making and closing sales. Offering free, informative, useful articles and newsletters is a great way to display your expertise and gain confidence. By constantly providing how-to articles, email tips and so forth you will add value to your business in the eyes of your prospects and customers.
Factor #7 – Sparking interest
Factors 1 through 6 are the basics an income producing website desperately needs, but they are often neglected. Just paying attention to the sales part will make a website fail in the mission of abundantly producing income. On the sales page, you have to capture interest first. Otherwise, visitors will likely not read the page. Landing pages should contain headlines your target market can relate to and are interested in.
Factor #8 – Creating desire
Landing pages or sales pages should take on the role of a salesperson, which means it has to create desire, conquer objections, build confidence, and a need to purchase your product or service. It should relate to the problems or desires of your target market and offer solutions. Testimonials are great for building confidence and conquering objections. A well-written sales page will make the readers have an “I've got to get this” reaction.
Factor #9 – A call to action and completion of the sale
Even after desire is created, readers are still in an information stage. Your sales page absolutely has to have a call to action. If you don't ask them to buy your product or service, most will just continue to think about it. No matter how creative your web writing is, it is worthless without an effective call to action. Completion of the sale also needs to be accomplished on your site using an ecommerce system, preferably with a shopping cart. If your website completes the sale and processes the payment, you don't have to worry about losing your customer in the mix involved with outsourced services.
Factor #10 – Design
The design of your website is somewhat important, but it isn't necessary to have all the bells and whistles that some designers tout, especially if it will slow down the loading of your site or diminish its effectiveness. Your website design should be created with your target market in mind. Choose a design that they will like and find appealing. It doesn't matter if you like it, it is more important that your target market likes it and that it will cause them to respond!
BONUS Tips…
Tip #1 – How to sell on the internet
When selling on the internet, you don't really want to offer your highest priced product or even provide a list of all of your products. Why? It is just overwhelming to website visitors. Instead, I recommend a funnel system of selling. Ideally, you want to lead people through a series of products or services, with their own benefits and features, which the customer could purchase at a certain price point. Once they purchase you can up-sell to them at another price level. If they cannot afford the next level, then you have met their need at the price point they purchased.
Tip #2 – Systems vs. Websites
To have a real, income generating website which is abundantly successful in producing revenue, you need much more than a website. What you need is one finely tuned system that integrates all of the 10 most important factors which work in harmony with each other to produce revenue.
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